core values Archives - Mind Tools https://www.mindtools.com/blog/tag/core-values/ Mind Tools Thu, 13 Jul 2023 07:13:57 +0000 en-GB hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.2.2 What Is Rust-out? Meet Burnout's Boring Alter Ego https://www.mindtools.com/blog/what-is-rust-out-meet-burnouts-boring-alter-ego/ https://www.mindtools.com/blog/what-is-rust-out-meet-burnouts-boring-alter-ego/#respond Mon, 10 Jul 2023 10:40:47 +0000 https://www.mindtools.com/?p=37962 If burnout is the stressed and tired employee rushing from one task to the next, rust-out is their lethargic and unmotivated colleague.

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Imagine that your inbox is completely empty, and your to-do list is done and dusted. Work is quiet… maybe a little too quiet?

Boredom might sound appealing to those who are constantly rushed off their feet. But feeling underworked may be more common and damaging than you think. In fact, a recent study showed that almost 20 percent of U.S. workers feel "actively disengaged" from their work. It's such a prolific problem that it even has a name: rust-out.

Rust-out vs. Burnout

If burnout is the stressed and tired employee rushing from one task to the next, rust-out is their lethargic and unmotivated colleague.

The term, originally coined by psychotherapist Paula Coles, refers to chronic boredom borne out of unstimulating work. In contrast, burnout is caused by overstimulation. And while it may sound contradictory, doing too little can be just as emotionally exhausting as doing too much.

The causes of burnout and rust-out may be poles apart but the symptoms can be surprisingly similar. Those suffering with rust-out can feel agitated, short-tempered or anxious, and may procrastinate to avoid work that doesn't motivate them. If left unchecked, long-term boredom can even affect your eating and sleeping habits, and lead to depression.

Rust-out could be the wake-up call you never knew you needed!
Rust-out could be the wake-up call you never knew you needed!

How to Spot the Signs of Rust-out

Much like real rust, rust-out can linger below the surface and may not be immediately obvious. You may even mistake it for laziness. Instead, rust-out can actually be a sign that you've outgrown your role or responsibilities.

Perhaps you feel that your job is the same day in, day out, with no sign of change. Or that the work you do doesn't align with your personal values. It could be that your skills aren't being put to proper use. You're certainly not learning anything new.

And while rust-out can occur at any point in your career, these feelings are particularly common among new graduates and middle managers. The former may feel limited by a role that doesn't reflect their abilities and qualifications. The latter may feel stuck in their routine, unable to progress, and believe that their career has plateaued.

How to Defeat Rust-out

Whether you're suffering from rust-out yourself, or you manage someone else who is, spotting the signs early is the best way to tackle it before it gets out of hand.

Be Honest

When a job becomes boring or unfulfilling, it's easy to assume that you need to move on to greener pastures. But a new job isn't the only answer.

Be honest with your manager about how you're feeling and discuss ways that you can incorporate more of what you love into your existing role. There may be more opportunities to craft your job to your liking than you realize!

As a manager, be compassionate and broach the subject carefully. Assure your team member that you're there to help, and establish a solid understanding of the problem before you offer solutions.

Identify Your Values

One common reason that people feel unhappy in their jobs is that their work doesn't reflect their values. Consider the times in your life and career when you've felt the happiest, proudest and most fulfilled.

Perhaps it’s when you've helped someone through a difficult time, solved a seemingly impossible problem, or made a lucrative sale. Once you've determined what matters most to you, you'll be able to prioritize these values and steer your career in the right direction.

As a manager, be patient and open-minded; this process can take time and you may hear some hard truths, but it's vital that you don’t become defensive. In fact, this feedback is crucial to ensure that your team is running at its best.

Find Your Passions

Do you have any special skills that aren’t being utilized? For example, do you have a creative streak that's going unnoticed in an admin-heavy role? When our strengths and passions are ignored or underappreciated, it's easy to lose motivation.

Identify the things that you do best and explore ways that you can incorporate them into your job, as well as other positions and opportunities that better suit your skillset.

It's a manager's role to ensure that everyone's jobs align with their strengths so keep an eye out for skills gaps in your teams. What new opportunities could your team members take on? What support or training would they need to develop? How can you help them achieve their goals?

The Bright Side of Rust-out

Rust-out can feel like a dark cloud hanging over you, but the good news is that there is a silver lining. If you're feeling unfulfilled in your job, then now is a great opportunity to reassess your current position, immediate opportunities for growth, and long-term goals.

Useful Resources

Here's a curated list of Mind Tools relevant resources (please keep in mind you may need to be a member of the Mind Tools Club to access certain resources):

What Are Your Values?

Overcoming Procrastination (Skillbook)

How to Take Care of Your “Social Battery”

Job Crafting

Avoiding Burnout


Blog author Rosie Robinson

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Forgiveness at Work (Wait... WHAT?!) – #MTtalk Roundup https://www.mindtools.com/blog/forgiveness-at-work-wait-what-mttalk-roundup/ https://www.mindtools.com/blog/forgiveness-at-work-wait-what-mttalk-roundup/#respond Tue, 21 Jun 2022 11:00:00 +0000 https://www.mindtools.com/blog/?p=31687 "Grace for self and others is a balm for the chaos and stress of our lives. It's a place to start when forgiving ourselves and others."

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War just a country away from mine, gun violence in the U.S., and the turbulent post-pandemic times we all face have challenged my limits. Writing this blog post, I've never felt more tested by this simple word: forgiveness.

Zala Bricelj

These times have made me wonder and reflect on what role forgiveness plays in our lives, relations, teams, and work. We've all sat at both sides of that table – as a person who forgives, and as one who's being forgiven. It's not easy or pleasant being in either position.

It can tie into painful memories, shame, anger, regret, and the feeling of being lied to, exploited even, or not being good enough.

And if it feels like the scars and wounds are still too raw and recent, it might be unthinkable to forgive a person, a team or a community. It raises valid questions like:

  • Does every person deserve to be forgiven?
  • Is forgiveness necessary to let go and move on, without emotional distress holding you back?
  • Are there exceptions – instances where forgiveness is impossible?
  • Is forgiveness the only way to set boundaries in your life and come to terms with the past?
  • Forgiveness... a two-way street or not?

The Power of Forgiveness

The power of forgiveness lies in the benefits of releasing the emotions, resentment and vengeance a person is holding on to. No matter if the recipient deserves it or not.

It does not apply only to personal experiences but can also play an important role in restoring workplace relationships, and can help to create better-connected teams.

Here are some other questions to ponder. Is practicing forgiveness at work a strategy that can improve workplace dynamics? Can it restore harmony and help resolve issues of anger or resentment; can it counter the counter-productivity that is created?

"Forgiveness is not weak. It takes courage to face and overcome powerful emotions."

Desmond Tutu, South African clergyman and activist

Enabling the practice of forgiveness in the workplace positively affects and displays the company's core values. As much as the act of forgiveness is a personal, intimate act, it should equally be applied in a business environment.

Fostering a culture of forgiveness at the organizational level leads to establishing agreed responses to interpersonal offenses or perceived harm and wrongdoing in the workplace.

But Sometimes Things Are Just Unsustainable

Efficient, valued employees need means and opportunities to resolve conflicts and practice compassion. Working in diverse teams, having short deadlines, and feeling pressured to achieve targets, the workplace can get stressful.

When tensions are high, if there's no resolve to tackle this, things can turn for the worse. It can affect productivity to the extent that it dissolves a team and eventually affects the bottom line.

I know, I've experienced it myself. Do what you love and love what you do – until it becomes unsustainable. It took me a long time to process and mourn the loss of a great team and a job I loved: to accept the past and move on. Forgiveness was far from my mind.

It did come later when I became more experienced. When I'd led teams myself and identified and reconciled all the anger and sadness that I didn't shoulder at that time.

Forgiveness Points the Way to Peace of Mind

When it came to the great job that I loved and lost, I forgave but I didn't forget. If my path ever crosses my former team leader, I know that I'll feel free of the burden of our past experiences. But I'll never trust this person again. The bonds, the connection and the team spirit were broken – and therefore cannot be restored.

It all led me to a realization that forgiveness is not a two-way process. It can be an intimate process: a sort of inventory of the past, and a search for ways of dealing with the whole package. Dealing with the person, the situation, and especially emotions that you've not shouldered yet.

When your emotions are not processed, they lead to similar situations – pain and anger that you pass along to the next team, next job, your family, and friends. It's a loss that keeps on lingering until you release it.

Consider the words of filmmaker Paul Boese: "Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future."

Forgiveness does not change what happened. It does not take away the pain or correct the hurtful events that happened.

But it does offer a way to acknowledge our feelings and reactions, understand the actions of the other person, and forgive them (for our peace of mind). Forgiveness for others is as much forgiveness for ourselves.

Forgiveness Is Going Global

We're allowed to start with a clean slate, deciding for ourselves if our forgiveness fosters a further relationship with the person who hurt us or not. It's a process: lifelong learning that makes us stronger, more agile and more resilient.

It opens up future possibilities – how we act, how we respond to difficult situations and protect ourselves and our boundaries. And that's important for our wellbeing and mental health.

July 7 is Global Forgiveness Day. It's a great opportunity to lead by example. Let us give ourselves permission to show what empathy, care and forgiveness can achieve when we mindfully engage in the process. Let us be an example to others with our journeys to forgiveness.

Forgiveness at Work (Wait... WHAT?)

During our latest #MTtalk Twitter chat, we discussed the sensitive issue of forgiving people who have wronged us. Here are all the questions we asked, and some of the best responses:

Q1. What comes up in your mind when you look at this picture?

@ColfaxInsurance Forgiveness can be complicated and you might have to process a lot of emotions before you're able to actually reach the stage where you're ready for forgiveness.

@MikeB_MT The word that comes to mind for me is "grace." Grace for self and others is a balm for the chaos and stress of our lives. It's a place to start when forgiving ourselves and others.

Q2. Forgiveness has religious connotations. Why bother with it if you have no such belief?

@shamikv Maybe religious scriptures talk about forgiveness but it's universal. It's psychological.

@Yolande_MT It frees up mental bandwidth that you can expend on better, more pleasant things than people who wronged you. They shouldn't be given the opportunity to live in your head for a minute longer than they need to.

Q3. Repeatedly forgiving people who hurt you is a sign of weakness – yes or no?

@HloniphileDlam7 It is actually a sign of maturity. We can't change people but we can keep ourselves in good spirits.

@J_Stephens_CPA Forgiving people is a sign of strength. Prudence should be used though to avoid being placed in a position to need to forgive someone repeatedly. It's why communication is key when we forgive.

Q4. If you forgive a person, must you trust them again? Why?

@HloniphileDlam7 It depends. Some mistakes are not about trust. Once trust is broken, it becomes difficult to really restore... like broken glass.

@ThiamMeka2Gogue Forgiveness has to do with the past. It is letting it go. It only takes one to offer forgiveness. Trust has to do with the future: the person must show through their actions that they're trustworthy before you trust them again.

Q5. In your opinion, which brand/business mistakes or workplace misdemeanors are unforgivable?

@ZalaB_MT Brands/businesses that engage in unethical acts, mislead their users and customers, or lie to get ahead of the competition. Those who treat their employees poorly, are not willing to change their ways when outed for inappropriate actions, or engage in harassing in any way.

@SarahH_MT Treating people disrespectfully is never OK. Any misdemeanors which fall under the heading of "intentional harm" to others would be hard to forgive – as is taking pleasure in others' pain or abuses of power. It's just wrong.

Q6. What role does forgiveness play in a healthy team?

@DrSupriya_MT None of us is perfect, we all commit mistakes! The culture of forgiveness actually helps the team to go beyond reaction to response, giving people a chance to mend their ways and coexist.

@sumeetjindalin To be able to forgive, one has to have patience and tolerance with their behavior. It's an art to develop such behavior and, once done, people will come to you for solutions they couldn't get to.

Q7. Is forgiveness a decision or a process? Please explain.

@shamikv If forgiveness is your creed, it's a decision by default and needs no process. If it's a need, then it is a decision and may need a process to put things on record.

@Midgie_MT I see it as both. It is a decision to consciously let something go and forgive the person. It is a process because it may take time until the relationship is rebuilt to what it previously was.

Q8. How do you ask for forgiveness for yourself?

@PG_pmp Just close your eyes and listen to your mind and heart, to deep dive on the decision taken.

@SoniaH_MT Acknowledge & understand your action, reflect on what you knew then vs. now, understand & accept the difference. Do not dwell in self-pity, and aim to not repeat the action by being mindful.

Q9. How do you move forward without being forgiven?

@lg217 You move forward by accepting the fact that life goes on. No one is going to move forward for you. You must learn to move forward on your own and learn to forgive yourself when you do something wrong.

@K_arenT With a clear consciousness. You make decisions with the resources available at the time.

Q10. What is the role of self-forgiveness in the process of forgiving others?

@junkkDNA Introspection often helps unfold many things about ourselves. The process for forgiveness is just like that in fact, a part of introspection.

@ThiamMeka2Gogue Self-forgiveness gives a personal shift from self-blame to increased responsibility. By letting go of negative thoughts, shame, guilt, self-blame, and by having the capability to offer that forgiveness to others.

To read all the tweets, have a look at the Wakelet collection of this chat here.

Coming Up

In our next chat on July 1, we'll look at the thorny issue of labels. Do you wear yours proudly, or are they just about stereotypes?

In our Twitter poll this week, we’d like to know how you’d feel if you were "labeled" negatively.

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